I got fired from a tele-marketing gig. It was a horrible job.
I had applied for the position because I needed the money real bad. They fired me two weeks later: I hadn’t sold anything.
And they didn’t like my attitude.
So there I was: laid off of one of the simplest, unqualified jobs available on the marketplace…
What was I going to tell my friends?
More importantly, what was I going to tell myself?
Talking about a self-esteem issue…
It was time to draw conclusions from this failure, and I had to do it before my mind settled for a negative belief (“I’m crap” being one of them).
There was an unlimited supply of justifications available to me, things like:
A- I got laid-off because I’m a loser, I’m not even capable of holding a brain-dead position for two damned weeks
B- I got fired because this company’s management is horrendous, they should settle in a nasty-ass slave-factory like Qatar or Dubai(they probably will)
C- I got fired because Reptilians used micro-waves to control my brain, which totally messed up my sales performances
D- I got fired because I’m simply not fit for that job, and it doesn’t mean I can’t perform in much better positions than this one
Out of the four options, option D sounded best: I was not fit for that job. Or even better: that job didn’t fit me.
I felt it would help me feel better about myself, it would also be a good foundation to approach other jobs more confidently.
Was option D truer than the others?
I didn’t know, neither did I care. I simply chose it because it was helpful, when all the others were useless or disempowering.
I’ll even dare to make a generalization, whenever you’re faced with a challenge, ask yourself:
What belief truly supports you?
What mindset would you need to adopt to get out of pain and respond positively to a situation?
Or, as Tony Robbins often says:
“What would you have to believe to make something work?”
And what belief can help you support people around you? Of course, you can try to hold on to painful certainties that seem true to you, but please remember that:
1 – You don’t have to do this, you’re free to chose what meaning to attach to a situation
2 – Your entire set of values is a pile of arbitrary labels stacked on top of each other. They’re only relatively true.
So, what’s more important? Being right or being happy?
If your priorities are well set, you’ll pick the belief that fits you just right.
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